It’s ok not to be ok

It’s ok not to be ok
“Don’t be afraid to ask for help
It won’t make me love you any less
Don’t hide behind me
You’re strong enough to face the fall
It won’t make me love you any less”
                                     Rag n Bone Man – Love you any less

When I’m feeling down I tend to turn to music. I’m one of those people that takes comfort in really depressing music, love a bit of Adele or Lana Del Ray when times are tough. On one of my many recent drives I was listening to Rag n Bone Man. I stumbled across the song ‘love you any less’ and it’s really resonated with me.

I have had a shit time recently. Life can be cruel sometimes and test you to your limits making even just getting out of bed difficult. It can make it hard to see the good things as you’re getting weighed down by the crap. Hard to find any positives when you feel like you’re stumbling in the dark

I reached the point where I had to ask for help. Like so many people, this is not easy for me to do. I like to be strong, like to be the fixer of problems not the one struggling with them. I hate to feel weak or not in control. But life definitely had other plans for me, I realised I needed to go with the flow of events. I couldn’t change what was happening but I did need help to cope.

The rag n bone song makes me think about asking Mr B for help, and his amazing strength that propped me up. He helped me find my strength, helped me see what little good there was and he kept baby B amused. Seeing them together lifted me, made me see that whatever shit was happening, whatever was being taken away from me I still had them. I still had my little family.

Who knows what is round the corner but I do know I have the strength to face it. It’s ok not to be ok, and it’s ok to ask for help. I’m just very lucky to have amazing friends and family to turn to.
Smiling through the sadness family photo

My amazing little family together as we smile through the sadness

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  1. April 18, 2017 / 5:28 pm

    It is very much ok to not be ok, and I feel it’s our push to be ok quickly that does damage to our mental health without any good reason to push. Sorry you have had a shitty time. Music is a great medium to find some solice .

    • Mama Balls
      April 19, 2017 / 6:42 am

      Thanks lovely. I agree that people are often reluctant to take time for themselves and to not take the time to process and work through xx

  2. Anon
    April 24, 2017 / 9:56 pm

    People say they’re there for you, they say It’s ok not to be ok but if you’re struggling and trying so hard what else can you do. Life hurts so much sometimes and when you’re alone and hurting it’s just so hard

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